NEVER BELIEVE, YOU NEVER WILL

In this Redmond's Review, Darren covers two different levels of thinking.

Never believe? Then, you never will.

Remember, you have already proven you are so much better than, “you never will.” Heard any of these things in your life before, “Look at all those showing more talent in what ever activity you participate in, they are better than you, you will never pass them.” “I’d rather be honest with you than build up your hopes.” “How can you dream of a better life you can not even pay the mortgage.”

Do the above comments sound familiar? These are many times words of negativity presented by coaches, teachers, friends and sometimes family happen. They are presented as well meaning advice but often are cloaked in negative energy. What benefit is it to destroy ones dream? To murder ambition?

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If you never believe, you never will. Even the oldest of homes are built on strong foundations.

I want to remind you that you are not to old to go back to school. You are not too broke to one day be rich. You, my friend, are talented enough to have that job, that school, or that significant other to pursue you! Do not let well meaning negativity rationalize your dreams away. Give no one that power.

Want proof of how terrific you are in beating the odds ? I will not go into the biological details, but when you, the you that is reading this was created, the essence of matter in constructing you, literally beat out thousands of others looking to become another version of you. You beat tremendous odds back then and did it on biological determination.

Think about it, with all you have learned and received since that time, what you can do when you are hyper focused. Let no one stand in your way. I believe you can.

Written By: D. Redmond


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PARENTS – READ BEFORE ENTERING

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PARENTS WITH PERSONAL GUIDANCE

Parents are noticing child warning signs at restaurants. I want to start out by conveying to you that I agree with these two points: First, hearing and seeing a child running willy-nilly around a restaurant can be a bit of a distraction. Second, a screaming kid running up and down an aisle during a flight can hinder one’s attempt at a nap.

OK, now that we have that out of the way, I ask you is your “annoyance” at these situations involving children. Is it any different than when you hear an adult screaming for a waiter or waitress numerous times. Or, when the person next to you on a flight is taking off their shoes and socks and then proceeds to give themselves a foot massage?

PUBLIC BUSINESS SIGNAGE

I bring up the above points for a reason. Recently, I have noticed more and more signs in local restaurants both on the east coast and west coast, warning parents that their children are “on notice” and better behave or else. Where are we going as a culture, when people would find this some how acceptable.

Now, I am a pure Free Market person, so I would be against any governmental regulation not allowing such signs. But, my question really is this, why would people want to associate with a place that appears to look at our children as the enemy?

This opinion may not be popular, but I feel it needs to be put forth. Why are we putting our children on notice? What ever happened to a quiet respectful, one on one with a parent who may be allowing their child to run a muck, that would ask the parent to please rectify the situation? What is next? Signs warning that those who may eat loudly not to come in, or even worse? You get the picture. The slippery slope is indeed starting to get wet. Why would any one find it okay to warn paying customers “that thus and so” will not be tolerated or else?

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE AND SIGNAGE

I worked in the restaurant and night club industry for well over ten years, and NEVER in those ten years saw such a sign in place where I worked. If children on a case by case basis got out of hand, than on a case by case basis we spoke to the parents with dignity and tact.

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These are some examples of child warning signs at public businesses.

On the east coast this past Summer, I saw signs such as the one I referenced and just shook my head, Out on the West Coast I have seen similar signs as well. Where are we going as a culture where when a family walks into a place of business, they immediately are put ‘under watch’. Would you, who are reading this posting, feel comfortable if the word ‘child’ was replaced with some other word that describes a certain type of person? My guess is you would not, but somehow we think it is okay to “stop and warn” families before they walk into a business.

PARENTS AND CHILDREN ON GOOD AND BAD BEHAVIOR

For the record I have seen 6 year old children behave quite well in places that people 5 times that age have not. If we keep this up, unless a family doesn’t mind a spotlight on them as they walk into a place, what choices will the family have? With no real choices, I guess a family can now be forced to eat at a fast food place. So, now the same people that seem to judge their children’s POTENTIAL behavior, can now judge the parents for going to the only public choice the family may have to feed their children.

Again, I stress, I am a free market believer; the less regulation the better, so let’s do the math shall we? A family of four walks into a restaurant in the Hampton’s. Lets say, they may stay 35 minutes, spend about $80 to a $100 to leave and now that table is available for someone else to use. The other option is this, the one or two people that may complain at being burdened by the threat of loud children, most likely spent less, and stayed longer in the place of business. Thus, net per hour, that place of business made less money, not more.

PUBLIC BUSINESSES THAT GET IT RIGHT

I have seen examples of businesses that have welcomed families and the money they spend. Sandals Resorts seem to have figured out this perfect formula. Yes I agree it may be a bit pricey, but their all inclusive family resorts are a great example of what I mean. A few years ago, we took our family to Turks and Caicos through Sandals, and my children were received as welcomed guests, not a potential noise threat. They wanted my business, earned it, thus received it.

Many other local businesses on both coasts and in our heartland get it right, as well. Children are guests, who have parents who pay money. The child that acts out, is an exception not a rule and the businesses act as such. For myself, as do many parents, I hunt out family friendly or family neutral places, and quite frankly when I can, will pay even more for the knowledge they do not prejudge my kids. I ask you this, how would you like to be pre-judged?

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Darren Redmond admonishes businesses serving the public that notify parents their children are being watched.

Written By: Darren Redmond


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PAIN IS A NON-PROFIT IN NEED

Parents And Addicts In Need was created in 2009. Many services are provided in the area.

PAIN IS A NON-PROFIT ORGANIZATION IN NEED

PAIN, or Parents And Addicts In Need, is a non-profit organization located in Fresno, California. It is a non-profit organization that specializes in rehabilitation services and support for substance users and their families.

The COVID-19 pandemic has caused financial damage to many businesses in the United  States in 2020. The negative economic effects have been intolerable in some cases. Some businesses have had to close their doors. Many non-profit organizations depend on contributions from area businesses to be able to help others in need.

The above video was created by Mr. Flindt Anderson, who began this organization in 2009.

PARENTS AND ADDICTS IN NEED

PAIN was founded in 2009 in Fresno, California. Their unique program focuses on family support services, while effectively navigating an individual’s the road to sobriety with proper and personalized help. They provide family consulting, as well.

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No one needs suffer alone. PAIN is there to help those in need.

PAIN facilitates support groups and reach out to area communities through speaking at schools, community service groups and town hall meetings.

Through extensive community partnerships and resources, they help drug and/or alcohol users get the resources needed to begin and maintain their rehabilitation process.

DON’T HIDE THE SCARS

It can be difficult to know whether or not someone close to you is abusing drugs or alcohol. This is particularly true when school or work can take them out of one’s daily life. If those close (family and/or loved ones) are concerned that a child may be suffering from addiction or alcoholism, consider the major indicators discussed here as a warning sign. And, then learn what one can do about it.

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Don’t Hide the Scars is one of slogans used in speaking engagements to the public, in schools, and other locations in the area.

Nearly everyone who becomes addicted to drugs or alcohol gives off some to several signs of this addiction. However, all of these signs can be boiled down to three major areas: physical changes, emotional changes, and social changes. Of course, some signs of substance abuse and addiction vary depending on the type of substance being used.

PAIN has broken down the signs of abuse and withdrawal symptoms below for each of the major drug types. Of course, providing such a service to all those in need is costly. Therefore, anyone reading here who may be able to help us continue helping those in need may make contact to PAIN, directly.

HISTORY SINCE THE COVID-19 OUTBREAK

Since 2009, Parents and Addicts In Need (PAIN) has helped thousands of California residents find help for those and their families who are struggling with substance abuse. COVID-19 and the Shelter In Place mandates create a very unique and potentially devastating obstacle for those who are in substance recovery.

Two of the biggest “triggers” for substance abuse relapse are boredom, and isolation.  We provide weekly family support services, interventions, counseling sessions, and information and guidance for those on the long journey to substance abuse recovery.

As a 501(c)(3) organization, they rely upon grants, endowments, fundraisers and most of all individual contributions from people to help fund the work they do. With everyone sheltered in place, the need for services has  increased, but the ability to financially support the work done by holding fundraisers is now nonexistent.

PAIN appreciates any help anyone may provide.

HOW TO CONTRIBUTE TO PAIN

There are a number of ways to contribute to PAIN. GoFundMe is one way. If one wishes to mail a check, please do so by sending it to: PAIN / 83 E. Shaw Avenue, Suite 202, Fresno, CA, 93710. Vehicle donations are also accepted. Please contact via telephone at: 559-579-1551. Or, one may email at: [email protected] Office hours are from 9 am to 5 pm, Monday through Friday.

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Since 2009, Parents And Addicts In Need has provided a myriad of services to help many to succeed on the road to recovery from alcohol and drugs.

If one or someone one loves is in need, please make contact to the information provided above. Thank you all for taking the time to help this organization. Also, as mentioned, if help is requested, prompt service is provided. Please visit this website: https://www.gotpainusa.org.


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HONEST? THEN, WHY STEAL JOY?

How may one be honest when they steal the joy from others?

If you are so honest, why do you go out of your way to steal joy?

Honest, don’t let my title fool you. Hopefully, it will make sense in a matter of moments.

For the purpose of this article, contemplate if you can, if somehow you purposely (or not), try to steal others joy. Upon that reflection meditate then on why do you think you do this? Why do we, as a society, feel the need to label people and cut them down. We often we do this under the veil of humor for example around others who know that person. I am NOT referring to watching what you say, but rather for a moment ask yourself, ‘why do you say that in the first place?’ If somebody is happy as a child about a toy, or somebody as an adult is happy about something that’s happening in their life, why feel the need to criticize that? Are we in some measure making a conscious effort then to rob them of their joy?

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Someone who believes in being honest may not realize their actions are stealing the joy from others.

Whether we want to believe it or not we do not have a crystal ball that can read into peoples minds or intentions.

A personal ‘joy’ factor?

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Being honest is a form of giving, not taking. The joy of association is damaged when it is hurtful or taking from others.

A person who might want to share something that gives them joy, might be that person who was trying to hold on to feeling good about themselves or the choices that they have made. They may be looking for affirmation in some way as an attempt to share and belong. Why then, steal that moment of joy from them and what purpose are you truly serving? If a person’s joy is little more than an inconvenience to you, I suggest leave it alone and let them smile.

A better world?

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When can being honest take away from the joy of the sport? Teaching with negatives takes away the positives.

How much more loving would this world be if we just allowed people who are harming no one, to smile and feel joy? The truth is, we most often because of their close proximity to “our”daily life, go out of our way to steal this joy from those who live closest to us. If you don’t think you fall into this category sometimes, ask yourself to audit your actions in a supermarket parking lot. Or, when was the last time when you were in a group of people where you did NOT feel compelled to talk negatively about a common associate to all in the group?I humbly ask, make a conscious effort not too unconsciously steal someone else’s joy.

Written By: Darren Redmond


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