“Your Voice” is written as an exclusive article from the heart of Darren Redmond.
When I bring up a question about your voice and its origins do you know from which I ask? I can assure you I do not mean the name of a TV show. This does not mean the voice you have when you sing in your car, or the shower, or in your room when you are alone. I mean where is the voice that is YOU. My opinion is that we all have our own voice, as we all have a unique finger print. but it seems many of us wear “community gloves” that cover our unique finger print, or in this case, our voice.
Finding your own voice is not easy, their is no 2 minute YouTube video that can make that happen. How may one find something they may not know what it looks like or truly is? Your voice also changes so what you may pursue at 18, as your voice may be different at 40. But are you chasing your voice? Or, rather a imprinted voice that is not truly yours, but a sound you have chased for a variety of reasons.
THERE IS NO CRISIS
It is not a mid-life crisis, nor is it a perplexing question facing students as they move from school to the working world. It is not anything else but finding ones self. But, how do you find something that you see and feel and talk to every day? (yes, my friends, we do talk to ourselves every day). Yet, sometimes, it feels like a suit we are wearing and nothing more.
PUTTING ON APPEARANCES?
Are we here to get by or to pursue the best we can be? That voice inside you, many times gets silenced by the noise around you. How to vote, how to think, how to react, may be some reasons. And, what you should be happy with, what you should share, what you should keep are other reasons. Of all of these decisions, do you make them from the voice in you, or rather a voice that comes to you from elsewhere? The beliefs that you grew up with, learned and believed in; did an outside voice tell you not to listen to things you grew up with? Or, was it to question everything, but then tell you to only listen to them?
LISTENING TO OTHERS INSTEAD OF YOUR VOICE
Are you listening to a millionaire singer tell you to be there for the every man and having enough and share the rest, who lives in a huge home, but, will not allow you to down load his or her music? And has armed guards all around them while singing this? If your voice tells you to listen, then that is great indeed; however, are you listening to some one else, while not hearing YOUR VOICE? The musician metaphor works, but many will do this. Who made the rule that you are too old to learn to dance? Or, go back to school? Maybe, dress a certain way, or to build a business ? That is their voice; it is not yours. Free will and freedom allows you to make a choice listen to them, or ignore them.
ARE YOU HEARING YOURSELF?
Your voice may not scream. But, rather, sitting silently, your voice may allow you to start hearing it. I am of the opinion that many times for what ever social reasons, we often do not allow ourselves to hear our wants and desires for fulfillment in who we are. Family, friends and commitments are all important and variables to listening to your voice are valid. But, your voice is helping you become the best person you can be, as any one who has gone through a 12 step program has conveyed to me. Your voice allows all those who rely on you to benefit, as well.
IT DOES NOT TAKE A VILLAGE
It takes a village to raise a child is not something I have ever agreed with. Rather, to me, it takes a village to look after each other. But, it takes a parent or guardian to set the best examples they can along with the child who becomes an adult, understanding who they are and where that voice brings them. To me, Screw-tape and the example given to us by C.S Lewis of him is alive and well. Your voice steers you away from Screw-tape. Anyone who tells you you are not unique and special has started to muffle the voice with in you.
We may be based on variables and scenarios around us. To settle to be one of the many box cars on the train which we all belong to, but, if it is your choice, based on your decision, that is YOUR VOICE. No one has the right to limit you based on any factor. If your voice tells you to sing..SING.. IF you want to own property, do so. If your voice tells you to help the homeless, do so and do it with passion. Your voice is who you are. It is not who others tell you to be.
BE YOUR VOICE
Following your voice does not make you selfish. Rather, it is selfish of society, to tell YOU how to act or be. as long as you are not breaking any law. You have the right to pursue happiness, but, there is no guarantee to actually achieve it. Nowhere is it written that your happiness needs to be mandated by the collective. Because, your voice is yours and belongs to just you.
Written By: Darren Redmond
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